Comments on: I “was” Bi, I “am” Gay! http://pink-pages.co.in/new/personals/i-%e2%80%9cwas%e2%80%9d-bi-i-%e2%80%9cam%e2%80%9d-gay/ India's National Gay & Lesbian magazine! Wed, 01 Sep 2010 13:31:43 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Udayan, Editorhttp://pink-pages.co.in/new/personals/i-%e2%80%9cwas%e2%80%9d-bi-i-%e2%80%9cam%e2%80%9d-gay/comment-page-1/#comment-4589 Udayan, Editor Sun, 22 Aug 2010 13:27:22 +0000 http://pink-pages.co.in/new/?p=96#comment-4589 I personally do not think the author intended to negate the existence of bisexuality as an orientation, instead just cited some personal experiences. There is a danger however to generalize these experiences on other genuinely bisexual individuals, which can lead to unwanted prejudices against such people. Thus, caution should be exercised, but at the same time a healthy discussion should be encouraged through articles such as these. I personally do not think the author intended to negate the existence of bisexuality as an orientation, instead just cited some personal experiences. There is a danger however to generalize these experiences on other genuinely bisexual individuals, which can lead to unwanted prejudices against such people. Thus, caution should be exercised, but at the same time a healthy discussion should be encouraged through articles such as these.

]]> By: ahamhttp://pink-pages.co.in/new/personals/i-%e2%80%9cwas%e2%80%9d-bi-i-%e2%80%9cam%e2%80%9d-gay/comment-page-1/#comment-4586 aham Sun, 22 Aug 2010 12:04:04 +0000 http://pink-pages.co.in/new/?p=96#comment-4586 . I have mentioned it is a personal opinion and not a generalization. I am definitely not biphobic. i dint care to justify because i value constructive criticism. and the stories mentioned are not a figment of my imagination. . I have mentioned it is a personal opinion and not a generalization. I am definitely not biphobic. i dint care to justify because i value constructive criticism. and the stories mentioned are not a figment of my imagination.

]]> By: Avinashhttp://pink-pages.co.in/new/personals/i-%e2%80%9cwas%e2%80%9d-bi-i-%e2%80%9cam%e2%80%9d-gay/comment-page-1/#comment-3631 Avinash Sat, 17 Jul 2010 13:34:48 +0000 http://pink-pages.co.in/new/?p=96#comment-3631 i guess the author was trying to say that his friend was actually gay but misunderstood himself to be a bi-sexual. he is not against bisexuality. it has happened quite a few times with me also. i do get attracted to some girls rarely. and i get confused does that mean i am gay or a bi? i guess the author was trying to say that his friend was actually gay but misunderstood himself to be a bi-sexual. he is not against bisexuality. it has happened quite a few times with me also. i do get attracted to some girls rarely. and i get confused does that mean i am gay or a bi?

]]> By: Rohanhttp://pink-pages.co.in/new/personals/i-%e2%80%9cwas%e2%80%9d-bi-i-%e2%80%9cam%e2%80%9d-gay/comment-page-1/#comment-3063 Rohan Tue, 22 Jun 2010 00:13:43 +0000 http://pink-pages.co.in/new/?p=96#comment-3063 Many researchers have long been skeptical about whether or not bisexuality is a distinct and stable sexual orientation. In 2005, a team of psychologists in Chicago and Toronto directly measured genital arousal patterns in response to images of men and women. The psychologists found that men who identified themselves as bisexual were in fact exclusively aroused by either one sex or the other, usually by other men! The contention of the lead author of the above study Dr. J. Michael Bailey is that despite so much of advocacy for bisexuality researchers were unable to produce direct evidence of bisexual arousal patterns in men. However he adds "I'm not denying that bisexual behavior exists, but I am saying that in men there's no hint that true bisexual arousal exists, and that for men arousal is orientation." (source: 'Straight, Gay or Lying? Bisexuality Revisited'-- <a href="http://-http://www.nytimes.com/2005/07/05/health/05sex.html?pagewanted=1)" target="_blank">-http://www.nytimes.com/2005/07/05/health/05sex.html?pagewanted=1)</a> As far as the above article is concerned the author(aham) has clearly stated "I pass not a verdict, but express my understanding…" That makes it his opinion. In any case there is no need to label the article biphobic as the author is talking about those who claim bisexuality but actually are either situational homosexuals(habitual homosexuals) or homosexuals who are either ambivalent about their homosexuality or simply closeted. These people endanger the identity of genuine bisexuals(who I believe are very less in number). Also he is talking in the Indian context(his personal experiences). Who can deny that 80% of gay men in India are married & 90% of this crowd is actively gay outside their marriage? Now does that make them bisexual? The word is unfaithful. This of course a euphemism. Many researchers have long been skeptical about whether or not bisexuality is a distinct and stable sexual orientation. In 2005, a team of psychologists in Chicago and Toronto directly measured genital arousal patterns in response to images of men and women. The psychologists found that men who identified themselves as bisexual were in fact exclusively aroused by either one sex or the other, usually by other men! The contention of the lead author of the above study Dr. J. Michael Bailey is that despite so much of advocacy for bisexuality researchers were unable to produce direct evidence of bisexual arousal patterns in men. However he adds "I'm not denying that bisexual behavior exists, but I am saying that in men there's no hint that true bisexual arousal exists, and that for men arousal is orientation." (source: 'Straight, Gay or Lying? Bisexuality Revisited'– -http://www.nytimes.com/2005/07/05/health/05sex.html?pagewanted=1)

As far as the above article is concerned the author(aham) has clearly stated "I pass not a verdict, but express my understanding…" That makes it his opinion. In any case there is no need to label the article biphobic as the author is talking about those who claim bisexuality but actually are either situational homosexuals(habitual homosexuals) or homosexuals who are either ambivalent about their homosexuality or simply closeted. These people endanger the identity of genuine bisexuals(who I believe are very less in number). Also he is talking in the Indian context(his personal experiences). Who can deny that 80% of gay men in India are married & 90% of this crowd is actively gay outside their marriage? Now does that make them bisexual? The word is unfaithful. This of course a euphemism.

]]> By: Natalia Vasquezhttp://pink-pages.co.in/new/personals/i-%e2%80%9cwas%e2%80%9d-bi-i-%e2%80%9cam%e2%80%9d-gay/comment-page-1/#comment-2557 Natalia Vasquez Sun, 30 May 2010 22:01:20 +0000 http://pink-pages.co.in/new/?p=96#comment-2557 Very great post. Honest! Very great post. Honest!

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