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So you think abusive relationships are only limited to straight people? The experts are now certain that you’re wrong. An astonishingly high number of LGBT people are victims of physical and psychological abuse by their partners, most often not realizing this, and therefore not able to take any corrective steps. Take this quiz to find out exactly how healthy your relationship is. Answer with an yes or no.
My partner
- Is very supportive of things that I do.
- Encourages me to try new things.
- Likes to listen when I have something on my mind.
- Understands that I have my own life too.
- Is not liked very well by my friends.
- Says I’m too involved in different activities.
- Texts me or calls me all the time.
- Thinks I spend too much time trying to look nice.
- Gets extremely jealous or possessive.
- Accuses me of flirting or cheating.
- Constantly checks up on me or makes me check in.
- Controls what I wear or how I look.
- Tries to control what I do and who I see.
- Tries to keep me from seeing or talking to my family and friends.
- Has big mood swings — yells at me one minute, and the next minute is apologetic.
- Makes me feel nervous.
- Puts me down and criticises me.
- Makes me feel like I can’t do anything right.
- Makes me feel like no one else would want me.
- Threatens to hurt me, my friends or family.
- Threatens to hurt him/herself because of me.
- Threatens to destroy my things.
- Grabs, pushes, shoves or chokes to hurt me.
- Breaks things or throws things to intimidate me.
- Yells, screams or humiliates me in front of others.
- Pressures or forces me into having sex.
- Threatens to “out” me to my family/friends
- Becomes violent or controlling when she or he is under the influence of drugs or alcohol
To rate your score
Give yourself one point for every ‘no’ you answer to questions 1 – 4
One point for every ‘yes’ response to numbers 5 – 8 and
One point for every ‘yes’ to question’s 9 – 28.
Now tally your score
0 points: Congratulations on a happy and healthy relationship!
1-2 points: Apparently there are some signs of trouble in your relationship. Keep an eye on your partner and communicate well.
3-4 points: You may be seeing some warning signs of an abusive relationship. Seek help from relevant people.
5 points or more: High alert! You are in an abusive relationship and need to take immediate steps.
